Lessons from Gabby Bernstein's Super Attractor workshop

Earlier this month, I had the chance to spend a whole day with Gabby Bernstein at her Super Attractor workshop. 

It was a day full of profound lessons on manifesting, energy, and how to live a life beyond your wildest dreams. 

Sometimes the simplest lessons are needed for us to breakthrough what is holding us back from true abundance. 

Listen in for some of the essential methods needed to remember where your true power lies

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Hey guys, thanks for jumping on. So I noticed coming to you a little bit late, but I really wanted to bring you the lessons from Gabby Bernstein's recent super attractor workshop. Um, it was an all day workshop held in Sydney. She has not come to Sydney for like over five or six years. Um, and honestly, before I even went, I've actually never read any of her books, books. Um, and I think I had a bit of resistance about her and, you know, I think when whenever any of us have resistance, I think it's a really good opportunity to look at what that is and why. Um, and what's coming up around that. I have definitely had a resistance to people and sometimes it's jealousy sometimes it's whatever, but what's beautiful. Is that about that is that we can then recognize what it is that we want.

Right. So jealousy is actually one of those things that, um, it actually shows us what it is that we want. Um, anyway, so I knew I had some resistance, but I just, didn't kind of, I didn't understand what was stopping me from going. It wasn't the price. It was actually like incredibly affordable. It was like $300 for the whole day, which is amazing. Right. Um, and I ended up just kind of like going whatever, booking it and going, and I'm so glad I did because she is such an incredible powerful teacher, obviously. So she's written a bunch of books. Um, universe has your back super attractor, judgment detox, and a couple of other things I did her 21 day manifesting challenge at the start of the year. And it was just a really beautiful, simple, easy kind of way. Just like to put in simple practices, nothing was groundbreaking.

Like it wasn't anything like that was super new, but it was a really good guidance right. On, on a lot of things. And so I wanted to talk to you today about two methods that she talks about, and they're incredibly powerful methods, and it's not just about manifesting whether you are into that or not. Uh, one thing I will say is we are all manifesting constantly, right? It just depends whether you're conscious or focused on what you're manifesting. Um, uh, but it also applies to our life and our moods and coming from a place of joy, stepping into happiness, all that sort of stuff. So there are two really, really powerful methods. And there isn't a single human being that doesn't get a benefit from this because we all, at any point alive live in States of flux, right? Like we're not always a hundred percent happy.

Um, I'm certainly not always a hundred percent happy and it's unrealistic to think that way. And so when we get into this, like these States of disempowering emotions and feeling like we just can't get ahead, or you're stuck, or you're overwhelmed and you're sitting in fear or you have that constant monkey mind, um, this first method is a really beautiful way to just literally flip the switch and you can do it in like literally a matter of seconds. Right? So one of the methods is called the choose again, method. Um, and the other one is called the spiritual aligned action method. And I want to talk about that a lot because, uh, I think so often, particularly if you've read or watch the secret, then you might have this preconceived notion that all you have to do is just like, think about the thing that you want and then never actually take any action towards that.

And that's unfortunately not true if it were then we'd, you know, imagine if you could just go, okay, I just want to think about an elephant and then elephant appeared in your bedroom. Like that would actually be an issue, right? So we don't actually, whilst we're super powerful in our ability to tap into the energy, uh, we're not that powerful that we can bring physical products into our realm immediately. And that is actually a good thing, but the spiritually aligned action method talks about how to get yourself in alignment to take action towards what you want, because if you've ever read or, um, investigated the 12 laws, right? One of them is about you probably heard of it. The law of attraction, uh, one of them is the law of action. There's also Kotler vacuum. There's like nine others. Um, and one of them being action.

So you have to take action. Obviously it's more powerful when you take a line direction. So I'll go through that method too. But the first one I talk about, I want to talk about the choose again, method. And, um, it's also really important to understand which I did not understand this, uh, before we kind of like started. And a lot of people even didn't really know this, but there's a scale to, um, our emotional state, right. And how powerful that vibration is. Um, and so when we're in a low vibration, we attract shitty things, right? When we're in a higher vibration, then obviously we attract that as well. And so her recent book super attractive. So the whole, the full day workshop workshop was kind of surrounding, um, super attractor, but she talks about this scale and the book. And like I said, I hadn't read the book before.

Um, but she talks about this scale about how the lowest energies, uh, things like fear, grief, desperation, despair, insecurity, guilt on worthiness. And this hit me like a ton of bricks. I mean, obviously I know that guilt and unworthiness are crappy States to be in, they're not powerful States to be, and they don't serve you then. Um, you know, they're very limiting, but I didn't actually know that these are literally the bottom of the freaking scale and I'll take a picture of this and put it in then in the group, uh, in the comments. Um, but the fact that unworthiness and grief and insecurity and fear are the bottom, Oh, I cried. And so the choose again, method is literally about choosing a better state to be in that doesn't mean that you spiritually bypass and go from, you know, unworthiness right to the top, which is joy and appreciation.

And sometimes I can be confusing because I know that even a lot of coaches and mindset coaches, life coaches, or whatever will say cool, like practice gratitude and that changes your state. And that is true. And that is incredibly freaking powerful tool to use. I use it every single day to literally rewire my brain for appreciation for gratitude. Cause that's the highest, like literally the highest vibration you could possibly be in to attract what you want. Um, and it is scientifically proven that you can rewire the neural pathways in your brain to be in a state of gratitude, to actively look for things that you're grateful for. So the fact that we are that capable of rewiring, how we think and what we see is obviously important, but when you're in such a shitty state, isn't it really hard for you to go? Well, I feel really disempowered.

I'm sitting in fear. How could you possibly jump all the way to the top of the scale and go, these are the things I'm grateful for. And sometimes that is true. And sometimes you can do that. I have been able to do them in the past, but when you're in like an extreme spiral of fear or unworthiness or grief or whatever it is, uh, the truth again, method is about choosing something that is just better, right? That's it just a little bit better. And so that you can move up the scale and maybe you'll choose again and maybe we'll choose again. But it's also about just getting you out of that, even if it's for a moment, getting you out of the crappy state, getting you out of the crappy feeling that you're currently in. So I'll just quickly go through the actual scale, right?

Because of the emotional guidance go. So the bottom fear group grief insecurity, unworthiness desperation, despair, powerlessness above that is jealousy above that is hatred and rage. So you could actually be in a better state if you're in a state of hatred, rather than fear on worthiness above that is revenge about that. His anger above his discouragement, above his blame, above his worry above his doubt for that is disappointment. And at 11 it's overwhelmed to feeling overwhelmed. Um, then it goes into frustration. Impatience irritation above that is pessimism above. That is boredom above is contentment. Then hopefulness, then optimism, then positive expectation and belief, then enthusiasm, happiness, ENS, then passion, and the very top joy appreciation, empowerment, freedom love. So the truth is, again, a method like I said is about just taking yourself out the scale up the guidance scale. If you've ever seen those like spirals, there was literally like an energetic spiral where you can spiral down and Holy crap, I've spiraled myself down into really shitty States.

And some like for me sometimes they've lost it. Yes, I've been clinically depressed. And that was like literally years. And as I've gotten better, I mean, I didn't know about this method, but it is super powerful. And it's based on, you know, very obviously very similar things that a lot of other incredible teachers also teach. Um, but as you get better at it, you get faster at it too. So after I was, you know, in a depressed state for years, I would take myself out of it again. And then, you know, then it might last and I'd be focused on the same crappiness for months and then it would be weeks and then it would be days. And, you know, I'll still get into a state where I can sit in crappiness for hours. Um, but now I can get myself out of it sometimes in a matter of minutes sometimes like within half an hour.

So the method is the very first thing we have to recognize what it is that you have on repeat in your head. Like, what is it that you saying to yourself? What is it that you're telling yourself that is that limiting story that is that disempowering state? And that might be, I can't do it. That might be, um, I'm so overwhelmed. Um, you know, or it might be jealousy. It might be, um, you don't deserve it. It might be that you don't feel enough. And that's a story that I know. I mean, every human being faces at one point in their life, and I know it's stronger for women, it really is stronger for women. And so often what happens is we use perfectionism, Renee Brown says this, we use perfectionism as like this 10 ton shield to protect us from the shame and guilt that we have about not being enough about not being good enough about not being whatever, whatever the insert fucking thing, right.

Not being sexy enough, not being skinny enough, not being smart enough, not being introverted or extroverted or not earning enough, not being a good enough mother, like whatever. And we get into crappy crappy States around that. Um, but the not enough thing is just unworthiness, which is at the very bottom of the scale. Yay. Um, but at the V the very first thing is just to identify what that is. What is the fear voice? What is the voice that you have in our repeat? Um, and to recognize that that is misaligned, right? It's misaligned with your higher self is misaligned with your true calling of why you're here on earth. Because when you come into this world, you're not like stamped. There's not like this stamp that stamps different people. You're worthy, you're unworthy, Oh, you're worthy, or you're not right. So you're born into this world worthy of everything, everything you desire you deserve.

Right. And so recognizing that the universe doesn't see worthiness and unworthiness, it's not that there's not a thing. It doesn't, it doesn't see it. There's no judgment. So we create this in our own mind, in our own head. So if you're in that state, you're misaligned with your highest self, you misaligned with the universe. Then the second, the second thing. So first is recognize whatever it is that, that, you know, what is that story? What is that voice that you listening to second is to forgive yourself for having the thought, that's it, forgive yourself for having the thought, because, and I used to do this until I started practicing, um, acceptance and commitment therapy. When I started seeing a psychologist like seven years ago, and I learned about this thing called acceptance and commitment therapy. And I'd never heard of it before, but it's essentially a method, a very specific method of mindfulness of kind of accepting that, the thought that we have the, literally the thoughts that come, you know, come into my head, actually, not ours.

It's not us. Whereas I used to think that the thought is me, that it, like, it's the same thing, but there's actually a separation. So we can forgive ourselves for having the thought, because it's not, it's not actually part of us. It's something that, you know, our conditioning, our ego, right. And if you feel like you can't even forgive yourself for the thought, there is a, uh, uh, a S a step of kind of stepping into going, okay. I choose to forgive myself for the, for the thought. So if you feel like even forgiving yourself for having a crappy thought or forgiving yourself for being jealous or forgiving yourself, you know, feeling angry or blaming someone else or thinking poorly about yourself. Cause most of the time it really is just about us. Right. Then just step into, okay. I choose to forgive myself for the thought sometimes that can help be a separator from if it's too heavy to forgive yourself for the thought.

Right. Okay. Number three is to choose again and that's it. And it's just to choose something up the scale. And I know that by default, we all want to choose like the best thing, the highest thing. And that is good. And that is obviously the intention, but it's just choosing the next best feeling thought. Right. So if it's, I feel really crappy, I'm sitting in fear, I'm sitting in overwhelm, I'm not good enough. What is the next best thing? Like maybe can you just move up to overwhelm? Right. Can you just move up to hopefulness? It doesn't have to be, I'm going to sit in a state of joy because that might be too far. Right. So it might just be that you decide to stop feeling bad, that's it? It doesn't mean that you have to feel good. It just means that you're deciding to not feel bad.

Right. And one of the biggest, what I love about this is because if you've been listening to the podcast or if you've been following me for awhile, you probably know that I have been massively into a couple of other teachers as well. So Gabby Bernstein's come into my realm quite intensely recently. So I've been following a lot of his stuff. Uh, but I also, um, follow and do a lot of practices with a couple of other mentors. One of them is Katherine's and Keena. She is called, she's literally called the manifestation, babe, that's her company. Um, and another one is Denise Duffield Thomas. And she has, she has a program and, uh, called money bootcamp, her businesses called lucky bitch. She has, you know, a couple of really awesome books. One of them is called get rich, lucky bitch. And in both of those programs from both of those teachers or mentors that I have, uh, they also talk about forgiveness.

If you also follow a guy called Jim Fortin, he talks about forgiveness. Essentially forgiveness is the practice of releasing. And when we release all the crap that we've stored in our body, then you can step into an open up to manifest because when we hold onto it, we are literally resisting and I get it. It can be hard to like to forgive. Sometimes it's forgiving other people because you know, they've done you wrong or whatever, but forgiveness is one of those practices that are taught universally on some level as being one of the core things that must happen for you to release all of the negativity that sits within our body. Like by default, we are all intuitive emotional beings. It's just that sometimes we try and rationalize it, right. Um, because sometimes, maybe that doesn't feel right, but really we are all intuitive emotional beings.

And we store negative crap in our DNA in ourselves. Like we store trauma, we store memories, we still have events. We store the stories and belief patterns that we have. And so if you think about the thought, any thought that we have, it is literally from the beliefs that we hold and that's just conditioned from our upbringing. Right. And so I went off in a minute of attention then. So coming back to the third step of deciding to choose again, just choosing what a better thought is just to slightly up the scale. Um, uh, I'm just reading my notes to make sure I am not missing anything. Yeah. So Gabby talks about how you can't go from despair to joy in a split second, right. It's just moving up the energetic vibration or scale. Right. Whatever the next best feeling thought is. So let me give you an example.

One of the things that I don't think I've really ever shared this before, I guess, with my community, but one of the things that I often struggle with being a, an introvert, but B also just a human being is that I have fear of judgment and criticism. I think that every human does that second one. Um, and so what, how that shows up for me is I don't actually show up as much as I could be, or as much as sometimes even I want to be because I'm letting the fear of judgment and criticism from others. Stop me. And I know, I know, I know I need to let that shit go. Right. But I can't go from that fear straight to joy. Right. What I can do is go cool. Instead of feeling fear, I can choose to say, Hey, you know what I get to do the work I'm called to do.

Like, I have that ability. I have tech technology, I have the intelligence, I have the ability to show up and serve and lead others and teach others what I know about investing about wealth, about money. And so just stepping into that means I can go well, because I get to, well, isn't that kind of cool. Right. I actually get to impact lives. I get to like, actually make a difference in financial literacy for women. I get to show women how to step into their power like that. Isn't that fucking cool. And so that's not the top of the scale, but it's definitely better than the fear. Right. Um, so I'm just gonna recap. First one is to just recognize the fear that we have on repeat, whatever that is, that fear Boyce. Second one is forgive yourself for having the thought literally in a moment, forgive yourself.

And the third is to choose again and choose again. And what I love about this, and I want to touch on this because, um, hopefully it's going to help stop you from beating yourself up if you don't get it every time is that it does just because you choose again, doesn't mean you're going to live in that state then for the rest of time. And you're never going to have a fear thought, or you never have a going to have a guilt door. You're never going to have a unworthiness thought, but even if you can, in that moment, sit in a better state, even if it's for a minute or a couple minutes or for an hour, that's better than sitting in a constant Fiesta. Right. And every time you do it, you allow yourself to sit in a better state, even if it's for just a little bit, just a little bit each time.

And so you might literally choose again hundreds of times a day and that's okay, that's fine. But it's about just using the practice and coming back to it, it's a little bit like if you've ever done meditation or mindfulness, um, you know, and the expectation is, uh, that it's going to be perfect every time. And that's just not the reality, but every good meditation teacher talks about how meditation isn't about being perfect or being a perfect meditator or sitting in state for that entire time. It's actually just about the consistent practice. And even if your mind wonders for nine of the 10 minutes that you said, sit in meditation, least it's better than not doing it at all. Right. And so the next time, maybe you're, you're a bit better and you sit and you get two minutes out of it, but your mind only wonders eight minutes and some days you will have better days.

And so this is just about, honestly, like it's not about the perfection of the practice, it's just about the practice, just doing it. Right. Um, does that help? Is that, is that helpful? Are there any questions on that? Um, all right. And if not, I'm mean to talk about the other method she goes into, which is really, really beautiful as well, um, which is called the spiritually aligned action method. And this is one, this is one I love because I think sometimes the confusion in like hustle gets lost because hustle isn't ness. And also isn't a bad, it's just, if you're not in alignment and if it's, don't actually what you want, then it can, it's not right, right. Because, you know, internally that, um, you don't feel aligned. Right? And so the very first thing in this is, and this doesn't matter if you're an entrepreneur, if you're a career woman, if you're a stay at home, mom, whatever it is, uh, whatever it is that you're working towards and what you want.

And obviously you would to have something in mind of what you want, right. And whatever that main thing is that you're working towards. The very first thing is to make sure that that desire is backed by love and service. Um, and that might be service for just loving yourself more, that might be service for your kids that might be service for your team that might be service for your clients, and also might be love for yourself. So love and service. It might be literally just giving yourself love. I know, you know, the analogy, right? You can't love others unless you love yourself. So even if it's love and service to yourself first, and then if it's also love and service to other people, your family, whatever it is, making sure that that desire is backed by that. And I think really the key here is just making sure that it's not ego driven.

It's not, you know what I want this car. Um, so that I look cool, right? That's not actually the end goal, but if you want like a Maserati or a Ferrari, because that's is what is going to make you feel like, you know, you've really been working towards that and that represents, um, how far you've come, like whatever. And that feels like a really loving act for yourself. And it means that you just feel better about driving your kids around and your hot new car. Then that's backed by love and service. That's not backed by ego driven, um, trying to get attention or significance. Right.

Okay. So number one, making sure it's backed by 11 service. Number two is to make sure you have the faith. Um, essentially the, the belief that the universe is taking care of you. Um, this one I'm not gonna lie is where I struggle and have struggled. Um, because part of it is letting go of control. Part of it is stepping into faith and before I kind of really started getting into and believing in and stepping into the power of the universe, um, I have never been a religious person. I've always been, what is it? Is it agnostic? Is that when you don't believe in a particular religion, religion, or is it atheist? So I've, I've always believed in a higher power, but not, um, you know, God or any specific thing, if anything, it was always, I believed in the universe, but I'll be honest.

I didn't, I've never really had like a strong faith. And when I think about faith, I've always associated with God. Um, and I don't, I don't particularly resonate with that, but I do. My belief is, is around the power of the universe. Um, and so stepping into the faith and the trust and the letting go, this is where I struggle, but it is important. And the more I do it, the more I am supported by the universe, the more I do it, the more I am showing the signs. Right. Um, so really stepping into that, and that is, that is a practice. Uh, but the more you surrender, there's always another level. And the first time I heard this, uh, man, I didn't like hearing it because surrendering is always another level. And I thought I'd surrendered, but there's always another level to surrendering. So even if you feel like you've surrendered to the universe or to your faith, whatever your higher power is, surrender again.

Right. And surrender again. And let go again, this is the material. And then number three is to take aligned action from that. So like I said earlier, action is part of the process of getting what you want. You know, I mentioned, it's not about just like sitting in a room and imagining something, even though the secret kind of alludes to that, that's how it works, but it's absolutely 100% not how it works. And so this is not to make hustle, you know, bad hustle is fine if it feels aligned. Um, if it feels like that is truly like if you're coming from a place of this feels good. Not because you're fearful or scared that if you stop hustling, you're not going to get the thing that you want. And this can be difficult sometimes when there is a belief that the harder you work, the more money you make, and this can be one of those money mindset, beliefs that are massively limiting and identify it because it's this how I used to think as well.

I also used to think that the harder I worked, the more money I made and unfortunately, um, it, it was true because the harder I did work, the more money I did make. And so it was almost like I was proving to myself that that belief system was true, but here's the nuance that I've come to realize that you do have to put in the work. You do have to take action. It's just not hustle and grinding yourself to the bone and exhausting yourself and working till 2:00 AM and doing 20 hour days constantly to get more money. That's, that's not what it is, but it is that you have to work, do the work and take action. Um, but it's always coming back to aligned action. So even, even the most beautiful mentors that I follow and I'll say them again, Katherine's in Canaan, Denise, Duffield Thomas Garrett, um, Gabby Bernstein and Jim Ford.

And they all still talk about, and even James Wedmore, they all talk about how, you know, they'll easily do 12 or 14 hour days. Sometimes that doesn't happen like every day, but they'll easily have weeks where they're doing 70, 80 hours. Um, but it feels good. It feels aligned and you know, they're on fire and they're in flow rather than grinding themselves to a bone. Right. Um, so number three, take aligned action from that place. Uh, number four is patients. Uh, this is a hard one. I know that a lot of people struggle with, but often the patients. And, you know, I've mentioned before that we live in a society that is, um, instant gratification. And the more that technology allows us to expand, um, our abilities and what we have access to, we step more into instant gratification after pay, allows us to have it.

Now, even if you don't have a credit card, Uber eats allows you to have something within five minutes. You don't have to go and get it yourself. Uh, Uber's have made transport super fucking fast, right? So like Amazon deliveries like of same day. And so we are falling into this pattern of getting everything now. And so it can be hard to then step into Holy crap, I'm waiting for this big thing that I want and I'm not getting it right now. I'm not getting it immediately. And I get that. Um, we often all live in instant gratification and I'm sure as hell not immune to that. Um, but it is patience. And recognizing that if you did get the thing that you want now, you might not even be ready. And that maybe the things that you're presented with as obstacles or challenges or the steps along the path towards what you want.

I actually just part of the path to get what you want. Maybe it's just preparing you for what you want. Maybe it's allowing you to step into the person you need to be, to have what you want. Um, and so I love this too, because often, you know, if, if we're not calling in the thing that we want, even for taking action on it, and it's just still not happening. And I, I know a lot of people ask this, like, what if I'm doing all the things I'm doing the why I'm taking a line action. And, um, it's from a place of love and service. And like, I'm doing all the things, right. And I have faith and I'm surrendering. Um, but it's not coming. It's still not coming. How do I get the thing that I am want? Um, often there's a belief. There's a belief that you don't deserve it, that you can't have it.

How about that? It's not actually going to happen, which is either not surrendering or either there's a belief that is preventing you from calling it in. Right. Um, and that's why I love patients because it always teaches us a lesson, not always the lesson that we want, but it is the lesson that helps us get what we want is the lesson that helps us step into who we need to be, to have what we want. Um, wow. That was a lot. We've been going for half an hour. Um, they were two really massive things I would love to hear from you if that was helpful. And that was interesting if you were inspired by it, if you're like, Holy crap, I can totally apply that to my life in this moment, like in this second, right. This second. Right. Um, that's it guys. I just wanted to take you through those two things.

I mean, I have so many, like I literally have pages and pages and pages of notes when I was at the event. Um, obviously it was a full day workshop. It was an entire day. Um, we did a lot of healing practices and, um, meditations. Um, it was really, really beautiful. And she took us through these two, um, methods. We did Q and a, um, and I literally have power, uh, pages of notes from hours and hours, but these are the two things I wanted to take through with you. And, and honestly just like, hope this is going to be helpful in your life. Um, and the one thing I wanna, I wanna end on and something, this is something I struggle with and have to step into and really have to remind myself to do is, um, to step into fun and to step into playfulness and to recognize that it doesn't, it doesn't need to be hard.

It doesn't need to be a struggle. It doesn't need to be confusing. Right. And just to know that you can have fun and you can be playful and actually stepping into the playfulness. Joy is what allows us to actually cool in what we want. Um, so if anything, maybe your homework from this it's to go and do something that is fun, go and do something that is playful going to something where you just feel like you're in a child again, or you can into joy and just let go and just have fun for fun sake rather than worrying about being an adult and thinking about the reason that you're doing it. Just go and have fun. Um, that's it for today. Thanks for tuning in. Thanks for joining me. And, um, Oh, I hope that you apply this. I want to hear from you, please tell me when you apply this and if it's actually impacting your life. All right, babe. Thanks for joining, huh?

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